10 Stupid Things T-Gurls Do
by: Raven Usher
by: Raven Usher
1: Not seeing a therapist.
Changing ones gender is probably one of the most difficult things a person can undergo. To do so without a neutral advisor to help through the difficult times is very foolish. However, the wrong therapist is more harmful than none at all. So shop around to find one experienced and supportive of transsexual goals.
Changing ones gender is probably one of the most difficult things a person can undergo. To do so without a neutral advisor to help through the difficult times is very foolish. However, the wrong therapist is more harmful than none at all. So shop around to find one experienced and supportive of transsexual goals.
2: Not seeking medical supervision when taking hormones.
No two individuals respond exactly the same way to hormone therapy. Self-dosing can cause serious health problems. It can even be fatal. When compared to cosmetic procedures, the cost of sound medical attention is inexpensive. If you cannot afford a doctor visit, you cannot afford to take hormones.
No two individuals respond exactly the same way to hormone therapy. Self-dosing can cause serious health problems. It can even be fatal. When compared to cosmetic procedures, the cost of sound medical attention is inexpensive. If you cannot afford a doctor visit, you cannot afford to take hormones.
3: Taking short cuts.
Transitioning is a long process. There are important steps that are necessary to achieving a new gender role. These steps may be done in different orders, but they all need to be completed. It can mean the difference between being accepted as a woman and being forever labeled “other.”
Transitioning is a long process. There are important steps that are necessary to achieving a new gender role. These steps may be done in different orders, but they all need to be completed. It can mean the difference between being accepted as a woman and being forever labeled “other.”
4: Concentrating more on looks than on the person inside.
Being a woman is more than a shapely figure and a pretty face. It includes emotional and mental states of being. The person who is not a complete woman on the inside can never be a complete woman on the outside.
Being a woman is more than a shapely figure and a pretty face. It includes emotional and mental states of being. The person who is not a complete woman on the inside can never be a complete woman on the outside.
5: Cutting too many costs.
Changing one’s gender is not cheap. It makes perfect sense to try and get the most bang for your buck. However, when it comes to any kind of body modification, second best may not be good enough. You may be unhappy now with small breasts, but how happy will you be later with a botched job?
Changing one’s gender is not cheap. It makes perfect sense to try and get the most bang for your buck. However, when it comes to any kind of body modification, second best may not be good enough. You may be unhappy now with small breasts, but how happy will you be later with a botched job?
6: Avoiding objectivity and self-analysis.
We desperately try to assure ourselves that we are going to be accepted as “normal.” Every success is a milestone along that path. However, T-Gurls carry around, to different degrees, the basic truth that they are not genetic women. The ability to accept this and to deal with others’ perceptions is critical. T-Gurls eventually have to come to terms with how they fit into society.
We desperately try to assure ourselves that we are going to be accepted as “normal.” Every success is a milestone along that path. However, T-Gurls carry around, to different degrees, the basic truth that they are not genetic women. The ability to accept this and to deal with others’ perceptions is critical. T-Gurls eventually have to come to terms with how they fit into society.
7: Obsessing about imperfections.
We often become so absorbed in what is wrong that we forget to acknowledge what is right. You can only undo so many of the effects of being born male. The sooner you make peace with what remains, the happier you will be.
We often become so absorbed in what is wrong that we forget to acknowledge what is right. You can only undo so many of the effects of being born male. The sooner you make peace with what remains, the happier you will be.
8: Hating the man you were before.
It is extremely uncomfortable to be forced to live in a role that is inconsistent with your mind and emotions. Perhaps hating one’s maleness is more about the insecurity of being a woman than it is about the short comings of being a man. People learn valuable skills and insights living as men. It is foolish to disregard those lessons because you have abandoned the male role.
It is extremely uncomfortable to be forced to live in a role that is inconsistent with your mind and emotions. Perhaps hating one’s maleness is more about the insecurity of being a woman than it is about the short comings of being a man. People learn valuable skills and insights living as men. It is foolish to disregard those lessons because you have abandoned the male role.
9: Carrying a big pink chip on your shoulder.
You may be the first and only T-Gurl many people encounter. It may be uncomfortable for them. You are unusual no matter how “normal” you feel. Statistically T-Gurls are rare. Discomfort and awkwardness is understandable. Your goal is to have a peaceful happy life. Constantly beating your head against a wall of ignorance is not conducive to that goal.
You may be the first and only T-Gurl many people encounter. It may be uncomfortable for them. You are unusual no matter how “normal” you feel. Statistically T-Gurls are rare. Discomfort and awkwardness is understandable. Your goal is to have a peaceful happy life. Constantly beating your head against a wall of ignorance is not conducive to that goal.
10: Trying to transition when your life is in disarray.
Life is difficult enough without the turmoil of being trapped in the wrong body. The objective of transitioning is to construct a new person. Any new construction needs a stable base to build upon. In terms of changing one’s sex, this means financial, emotional and mental stability. The more you have your life in order the better success you will have transitioning.
Life is difficult enough without the turmoil of being trapped in the wrong body. The objective of transitioning is to construct a new person. Any new construction needs a stable base to build upon. In terms of changing one’s sex, this means financial, emotional and mental stability. The more you have your life in order the better success you will have transitioning.
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